Penis size has always been a constant source of worry for men all over the world, as large penises have always been seen as synonymous with power, masculinity, and a heightened sense of manliness.
You only have to look at etchings on the walls of ancient Roman ruins or see the stone penises worshipped as deities in ancient India and the Far East, to see that when it comes to symbolism and culture, bigger has historically been seen as better.
We are all aware that masculinity and self-confidence has a whole lot more to do with our thoughts, our actions, and our behaviour than it has to do with what we’re packing down below.
Despite this, the vast majority of men living today have worried or will worry at some point in their lives, about the size of the penis and their ability to please their partner with what nature has given them.
If you’ve ever had a sneaking concern that you don’t measure up to what’s normal or average, or if you’ve found your performance in bed suffering as a result of anxiety regarding this touchy subject, then relax: you’re far from alone.
In this blog, we’re going to bust some myths and will focus on the facts rather than fiction regarding penis size and average measurements.
By establishing more or less exactly what the average penis length and girth is, and what both men their partners really think about their penis, hopefully, we’ll be able to dispel some of those concerns and encourage a bit more confidence, too.
The real data
In 2015, the Institute of Psychiatry, Psychology, and Neuroscience (the IoPPN), alongside urologists from the NHS, carried out the largest study into penis length and girth ever conducted.
The study measured 15,521 men of all backgrounds and ethnicities and verified those measurements with healthcare professionals.
The results were interesting, to say the least. Ask most men (and women, for that matter) what they believe to be the length of the average penis, and they’ll usually come up with an answer somewhere between six and seven inches (15.2-17.8 cm).
The actual average, according to the study, is an average erect penis length of 5.2 inches (13.2 cm), a considerable amount less than what most men believe to be the case.
The average girth of the erect penis is 4.2 inches (10.7cm), and the average flaccid length and girth is 3.6 inches (9.1 cm) and 3.7 inches (9.4cm), respectively.
How do you measure up to this?
Just like, height, weight or IQ, the average itself doesn’t mean a lot. It’s important to also look at the variance, which gives an indication of how many men fall within a certain range.
The Kinsey Institute has found that around 90% of men’s penises are within 1 inch (2.5 cm) of the average. This means that the vast majority of men have penises that are between 4.2 inches (10.7 cm) and 6.2 inches (15.7 cm) in length.
This information has been largely verified by condom manufacturer Durex, which regularly does market research to ensure that their condoms fit the majority of users.
Further, the same set of studies found that almost half of the men measured claimed that they were unhappy or in some way dissatisfied with their penis size, which seems to have more to do with a skewed view of what is actually normal.
Perception and reality
This distorted view of penis size (which can lead to serious results, such as depression, anxiety, ED as a result of performance anxiety, and body dysmorphic disorder) is often a matter of perspective.
Consider how most of us view our own penis most of the time. When we look at our own penis, which is most of the time in a flaccid state, we do so from above.
When we look down our bodies at our members, we don’t see it from a particularly flattering angle, nor do we see it as anybody else looking at our body would.
This is why standing naked in front of a full-length mirror tends to make our penis look larger; we’re simpler getting a better and more realistic perspective on our bodies.
It can also come down to something as simple as measuring the penis incorrectly. The standard ways of measuring a penis can be found here – along the top side of the penis, from the pubic bone to the tip.
Does size really matter?
What we’re really asking when we ask whether we’re average sized, under-average, or larger than average is this: do we have what it takes to please our partner or partners sexually, and will our partner or partners mind if we don’t measure up to their expectations?
Interestingly, several thousand women were also interviewed in the far-reaching study previously mentioned and were asked about how much importance they gave penis size as a factor in their relationships and sex lives.
When asked how important they considered penis size to be, they were given a choice of three answers: very important, somewhat important, and not important.
Only 11% of women questioned claimed that they considered penis size very important when choosing a partner, with 21% stating it wasn’t important at all, and 67% claiming it was only somewhat important.
As such, it’s fair to say that for most women, penis size isn’t a major factor in attraction or the success of a relationship, despite what many men continue to believe.
Is there anything I can do to increase my penis size?
Whether your penis is below the average erect length of 5.2 inches (13.2 cm), somewhere around that mark, or somewhat larger, the bottom line is to not let it dictate how you feel about your body or your sex life.
Plenty of women would claim that larger penises, despite what many believe, actually come with more negatives than positives, and in fact, can cause sexual intercourse to be uncomfortable.
Most would also claim that the old adage ‘it’s not the size, it’s what you do with it that counts’ very much holds true, and there has been plenty written and reported regarding smaller men who more than compensate for their size with skill, sexual prowess, and foreplay technique.
If you are concerned about the length of your penis, the simplest ways to give yourself a boost are:
- Lose weight and get fit. The pubic bone at the base of the penis is cushioned by a fat of pad. If you’re carrying extra weight, this fatty area will be larger than it should be, and it can even obscure the base of the penis making it appear shorter than it otherwise would.
- Trim the pubic hair around the base of the penis. Again, if your pubic hair is obscuring the bottom of your shaft, it may appear smaller. A simple trim can sometimes give the appearance of your penis a boost in length.
Apart from these two simple techniques, there’s not a whole lot you can do about the length of your penis.
If you’re still concerned, you can speak to a healthcare professional or seek counseling. Our advice? Don’t let it bother you, and stop comparing yourself to others.
Not only are you most likely absolutely fine (and the majority of women don’t seem to care much either way) when it comes to length, worrying about your penis length is only going to lead to further complications, and could even lead to psychologically-triggered ED.
Be confident with what you’ve got, learn to feel great about your body, and make sure to look after your sexual and erectile health – these things are the real key to a satisfying and fulfilling sex life.